How To Raise A Positive Child

Being a Good Parent There are several ways to raise happy, well-adjusted kids, however, science has a couple of tips for making sure that they turn out okay. From keeping it interesting to allowing them leave the nest, here are 10 research-based methods for great parenting.

Stick to the basics

There are a whole lot of different ways to raise children, and there's not one formula that is right for each child, explained Amy Bohnert, a psychologist who researches child growth at Loyola University Chicago. But surely there's some sort of recipe for success in regards to parenting, right? Kind of: Bonhert said the first basic rule of being a good parent is fostering a secure and warm attachment along with your children. That way they know their needs will be met and that they'll have a place to go if they need comfort. And as they get older, children have freedom to explore their own identities and also make mistakes, but at a protected and age-appropriate manner, Bonhert informed Live Science in 2011.

Don't be fooled by their height

No matter how tall they get or grown-up they seem, your children are still just that... children. And parents of older children especially have to bear in mind this simple fact, according to Sara Johnson, an assistant professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. The developmental period known as adolescence lasts approximately ten years -- from ages 11 to 19 -- also it's considered a critical time for brain development. So it's important to keep in mind that, even as kids grow into young adults, they're still in a developmental phase that can affect the rest of their life,

Nurture Your Marriage

If you're a parent with a significant other, don't let your relationship with your partner or spouse fall by the wayside when baby is born. Parents who suffer with marital instability, like contemplating divorce, may set their babies up for sleep troubles in toddlerhood, based on research published in May 2011 in the journal Child Development. The study found that a troubled marriage when a baby is 9 months old contributes to trouble sleeping when the child is 18 weeks of age. It can be that troubled homes are stressful homes, which anxiety is the reason for the sleep issues. [6 Scientific Tips for a Successful Marriage]

Support the shy ones

A little bashfulness is one thing, but children with behavioral inhibition -- a characteristic which refers to shyness and extreme caution in the face of new situations -- may be at greater risk of developing anxiety disorders, according to researchers. And parents who shelter kids demonstrating behavioral inhibition (in effect, supporting this inhibition) may actually make the situation worse. So how can you encourage shy kids? The key is to get them out of their comfort zones without attempting to modify their character, said Sandee McClowry, a psychologist at New York University. Why don't you just break them of their bashful habbits? Research has shown that shyness is a part of some kids 's character and an extremely hard trait to modify. In other words, it's better to work with shyness than it.

Don't Aim For Perfection

Nobody's perfect, so overlook 't torture yourself be an impossibly large bar for parenting success. According to a study published in 2011 in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, new parents that think society expects perfection in them are more worried and less confident in their parenting skills. And no wonder! Make an attempt to ignore the stress, and you might find yourself a more relaxed parent.